Building your self-worth (what to do when your self-worth is low)

Building your self-worth

Building your self-worth

The reality is that this is something that all humans struggle with, no matter the status of financial backing they might have at some point(s) of their lives they’ve struggled with the reality that they don’t always feel like the most worthy.

Some might want to point out those super-confident people that are nearly arrogant but ironically those people are the ones who often struggle the most with their self-worth. They overcompensate for their feeling of such low self-worth that they try to mask that by seeming overly confident.

The truth is that we all struggle with this at some point in our lives but what makes the biggest difference between this being a passing moment and it being a lifelong issue, is how we speak to ourselves.

You have way more authority over yourself than you realize.

The foundation of self-worth isn’t self-esteem

While many people think these are the same, they’d be wrong.

Yes, they both are correlated with each other but purely by definition are different.

Self-worth: is internal, it is a core understanding of who you are

despite outside influences.

Self-esteem: is an external belief on who you are based on external effects.

in a sentence, esteem can be defined as regard for someone from others.

so now that we have those two out of the way…

Is how you are feeling dependent on something you can do or is it dependent on how people around you perceive you? and why do you care?

If there is something you can change then do it if it is out of your control then it’s out of your responsibility, you literally can’t do anything about it.

Self-worth is meant to be your personal understanding of your true self, not the self people have told you, you are, not the self the world has made you believe you’re meant to be, not even the self that you personally think you should be, when it comes to comparison of other peoples ‘self’.

The outside world will always constantly change, there is no homeostasis in this world everything is constantly shifting and fleeting, the more you fixate on how it sees you the more you lose sight of yourself.

Let it lose you.

Make sure you don’t lose you.

Ground yourself in what’s real and what you actually have control over, yourself.

Choose to love you more than you choose to love what people think about you.

Don’t run from the emotion:

One thing I have found in my life is that where I see the most healing in myself has never been in avoidance or in fear of the emotion but in actually facing it.

The truth is that you are going to either own the emotion or it will own you, i

f you are able to embrace it, you are able to heal it through this

“Trojan Horse” tactic of allowing it in.

The purpose here isn’t to give ownership over the emotion but to be able to dismantle its strength over you by processing it fully.

Knowing what the root of that emotion is allows us to be able to identify if it’s rooted in something real in our lives or just a thought of what could be or isn’t. When we know why we feel what we feel, we no longer allow others to dictate what we should feel.

There is so much freedom in knowing that you have authority over yourself and over the power you give to your emotions or self-worth.

The reality is that you do not need to “rebuild” your self-worth.

You are worth more than you know, whether you choose to see that or not and that’s something no one can ever steal from you.

Step into who you really are.

“The world offers you comfort. But you were not made for comfort. You were made for greatness”

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Pope Benedict XVI